Domestic violence

Domesticviolence

Domesticviolence has been a persistence issue in the society for a long time,and historically, women and children have been the victims ofdomestic violence. However, it is important to point out thatdomestic violence has changed, and the general publics need to opentheir eyes wide enough to see what is happening in the societyregarding domestic violence. In the modern world, some women havebeen known to abuse their husbands and boyfriends. Recent researchshows that same-sex domestic violence is on the increase. The issueof domestic violence is prevalent because very few people care eventhe people closest to the victims. According to Payne and Wermeling,domestic violence is doing greater damage to women compared to rapeor even car accidents (1). Many victims of domestic violence opt toremain silent since they are neither ready to end their marriages norput their loved ones in any trouble. The issue of domestic violenceis of great importance since people need to know facts about itscauses, prevalence, and effective solutions.

Thesisstatement: is a prevalent issue in the society that isaffecting many people and should not be overlooked any longer. Peopleneed to rise, stop stereotyping the issue and sharpen their thinkingto find ways to put a stop to this insanity.

Domesticviolence is prevalent at the society, family and individual level.Whereas it is a day to day occurrence, the society needs to rethinkits cause and effects to both the families and the society at large. According to Mellissa, the major cause of domestic violence is thelack of resources (6). People who encounter social challenges andeconomic get frustrated in their day to day lives. Themuch-accumulated stress level may be vented at home considering thatsuch personal issues cannot be raised at the job level. This exposesthe spouse and or the family members to be at the receiving end ofsuch cruelty. The cruelty trigger, in this case, being the inabilityto sustain the needs in the family and instead of facing the reality,one tends to use violence to cause chaos and deviate from the realtruth. The theory of domestic violence explains that people with highsocial life, reasonable economic standards and personal money andresources feel powerful and respected by their spouses or partnerscompared to those who lack both the resources and the money.

Thispoints out to the fact that their stability both financially andsocially gives them peace with their families and the society atlarge. This translates into lesser domestic violence cases sinceirrespective of the normal family differences due to differentcharacters living together, at no one time will a person feeldisrespected. On the contrary, people who lack such resources useviolence to compensate their shortfall. The author observes thathumans use violence as a substitute for inferiority (Melissa, 8).This points out that the perceived cause is not always the cause ofthe existing domestic violence but more of a disguise to avoid beingaccountable for one’s short comings. Another major challenge thatcontributes to domestic violence is that in most cases, theperpetrator gets away with their crime due to lack of thoroughinvestigation by the police handling the case. According to HMInspectorate of Constabulary, the police response given to thedomestic violence related cases can be regarded as sketchy andlacking seriousness that it deserves (2). This in the long runcontributes in a way considering that since there are no visibleconsequences, the perpetrators are not likely to stop this prevalentabusive trend. He also cites lack of proper know-how, andinvestigation skills lead to inadequate information that may hinderthe police from getting a serious penalty for the offender (HMInspectorate of Constabulary, 3). All these challenges relating topoor police investigation points out at the serious need for thepolice to change their negative attitude towards domestic violencecases investigation.

Onthe contrary, there are claims that serious domestic violence casesthat are reported to the police are handled competently. Irrespectiveof the negative attitude issues raised about the domestic violencecases by the police, the latter claim to properly handle such casesespecially if the involved parties freely give enough informationwithout reservations. The challenge in most cases is that the victimswithdraw the charges after reconciliation with the offender beforethe police move their evidence to a trial ((HM Inspectorate ofConstabulary, 5). This in a very major way contributes towards theescalation of the domestic violence in the future. There existgovernment and private facilities that offer guidance and counselingto couples and families facing issues related to domestic violence toavert its escalation. Their objective is to ensure these cases arenot prevalent in our society and that people respect each other.

Additionallythe society is being sensitized on the negative effects of domesticviolence to both the families, the society and to the individualvictims. This is because, in most cases, the victims of domesticviolence do not report these cases either out of fear, love or thepossible financial support that the offender provide. According toPayne and Wermeling, most of the domestic violence victims fear thatthough there are the legal measures of protecting them from suchviolence, the system cannot protect them after the conviction (5).This in a major way contributes towards the reluctance of the victimsto report to the police after weighing the benefits and theirpossibly personal losses. These factors point out at the systematicmeasures put in place that the victims ignore, and the perpetratorstake advantage of, pointing out at the fact that domestic violencehas ways to curb it only that the people in the society are ignorant(Spidell, et.al 12).

Inas much as there are perceived claims that domestic violence isfemale oriented, it more of a two-sided aspect. This is according toSpidell and his colleagues observe that women also orchestratedomestic violence as they suffer post-traumatic stress disorder, ventanger and or individuality disorder (23).The escalating prevalentcases of domestic violence are in a major way contributed by the factthat there are other factors that play out in the event of a victim’spunishment or conviction. Payne and Wermeling cite that some womensuffer low self-esteem and live in constant fear of what others,mostly their families and friends will think of them as otherconsider the safety and the needs of their family over their safety(6). These cases push the victims to opt to remain in abusiverelationships in spite of the mechanisms in place to help them.According to Chhikara and others maintaining control over ones, apartner may as well contribute in a major way towards domesticviolence as some people use it as a strategy to achieve the latter(17). These strategies may be in the form of physical orpsychological abuse, sexual, emotional and or economical abuse. Theperpetrator may decide to terrorize their victim, humiliate,intimidate and or frighten to achieve the desired control over theother (Chhikara, et al. 18).

Conclusion

Inconclusion, it is clear that domestic violence is currently beingperceived as more of societal challenge rather than an individualchallenge. Irrespective of the many mechanisms to counter thechallenge, it is becoming prevalent and change faces with every turn.This is because of the loop holes that exist as a result of lack ofinformation, ignorance and police negative attitude towards domesticviolence cases. Being such a serious case, there is the need for allthe stakeholders involved to join hands with the end objective beingending the vice in our society, owing to its negative impacts. Thesemeasures range from community sensitization at a much aggressiverate, ensuring that both the health care services and the socialwelfare services work together in pushing the law enforcementagencies to handle seriously domestic violence related cases. Thesystem should as well empower women and men equally by giving themequal opportunities to curb extreme dependency on one partner much tothe safety of the other. This will facilitate the handling ofdomestic violence cases being handled without prejudice orwithholding information or the fear of an uncertain aftermath. Thereshould also be a mechanism to help married people handle stressrelated issues instead of venting them on their partners as it is thecase in most of the domestic violence cases in our society today.

WorksCited

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HMInspectorate of Constabulary. “Everyone’s Business: Improving thePolice Response to Domestic Abuse.” Her Majesty`s Inspectorate ofConstabulary (2014). Web. 15 Nov. 2015.

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Payne,Darrell and Linda Wermeling. Domestic Violence and the Female Victim:The Real Reason Women Stay! Journalof Multicultural, Gender, and Minority Studies 3.1(2009). Print. 1-6.

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